Summer for the NVLD child

Well, for most kids, school is out.  What to do? Children with nonverbal learning disabilities may want to have summers that are less structured than the typical child and they may resist your imposing structure on them.  But, for some, the lack of structure may be disruptive. Only you can tell about your child, but […]

When things don’t match: What’s the real stressor?

People with nonverbal learning disabilities often have problems where it is hard to identify the real cause. When the person is a child, it may be even harder for parents or teachers to identify the real stressor.  NVLDers often don’t know what they have done wrong or what is causing them problems.  This is because […]

Valentine’s day and the NLD child

Valentine’s day is an odd holiday.  Schools are open, work is open, everything is open, yet it’s celebrated anyway.  And it’s a horrible holiday for many NLD children (and adults) because we often have problems with friendship and romance and Valentine’s day is all about romance in adulthood and the precursors to romance in kids. […]

Bad behavior

Why do kids behave “badly”? (Here, “badly” could mean almost any behavior that most adults find objectionable). Of course, there are multiple reasons. Sometimes they are doing what their peers do – but they have some choice in who their peers are. Other times they are reacting to stress. Nearly all people, kids or adults, […]

“Lazy” is a four letter word. Don’t use it in front of children

I’ve been called lazy a whole lot in my life, almost always by teachers who had no clue.  Sometimes they used the euphemism “does not apply himself”. The best teacher who ever taught me, on the other hand, said I tried harder than almost anyone. But “lazy” is a four letter word. It should never […]

Calming down after a hard NLD day

When your child comes home from school he may be exhausted. Even if it was just an ordinary day. Even if other kids come home raring to go. Even if she doesn’t appear exhausted. He may be right at the edge of a meltdown. Why? Because all day long he has been stressed. Stressed by […]

I will be speaking at the LDA of NJ conference in October

On October 19 the LDA of New Jersey will have a conference. The conference goes all day, from 8 to 4.  It will be held at the Livingston Campus Student Center of Rutgers University in Piscataway, NJ. For full directions and registration see I will be speaking from 2:30 to 4. My title is […]

10 things having a learning disability doesn’t change

People with learning disabilities have significant challenges in life; I am not one to minimize those. And there are ways we are different from neurotypical people and I don’t want to minimize those, either. But it’s easy to lose sight of the many things that having an LD doesn’t change. Here are some:

Figuring out how we learn best: Don’t change the peg, change the hole!

There is an old saying that “a square peg won’t fit in a round hole”. Yet much of education, especially for those of us with learning disabilities, seems to consist of trying to force a square peg into a round hole. But can we change the hole?

Disability is not disaster

I have written elsewhere that I refer to my condition as a learning disability rather than a difference. I’ve been thinking some more about why there is antipathy towards this; I think some of it is because we tend to hear “disaster” when we hear “disability”.